In life we sometimes see things only the way we want them to be... not really as they are. I have spent a lot of time learning to live in the moment and part of this has been to see others as they really are! Not just what I think they should be or what I want them to be... but truly see them for who they are!
I think that this happens most when we start to fall in love. We meet someone who we like and when they respond in kind we can put on rose-colored glasses and we imagine all these great traits that the person has. When in reality they are just themselves. Then later when we find out that they really don't live up to our expectations we are disappointed!
I recently had someone project a trait on me that was not 100% correct. I felt bad (for about 5 seconds) to have to tell them that I'm really not that kind of person at all. I am just me...!
I see a lot of women doing this to their husbands or boyfriends. They see their potential but not who they really are! And I want to tell them that men usually do not change just because their woman wants them to.
I think it's better to be a realist and practice the art of seeing people for who they really are.
What do y'all think?