How do you feel about yourself most of the time?
I'm finally happy, or should I say satisfied, with where I am in my life. I'm comfortable in my own skin and know that I don't have to be perfect.
Growing up I had very low self-esteem. After I came out again in 2000 I did a lot of self-evaluation. One thing I knew I had to do was improve this area of my life. But what is self-esteem and how does one get it?
In psychology, self-esteem reflects a person's overall evaluation or appraisal of his or her own worth. Self-esteem encompasses beliefs and emotions about ones self.
I learned a hard lesson, I had to change my attitude if self-esteem is really just an attitude of your own self worth. You need a healthy self-image, not too much ego and not too much self-loathing. I overcame the feelings of inadequacies and insecurities. It still is a process that I am working on.
I've also struggled with perfectionism. Maybe it has to do with my mormon upbringing, they believe one can achieve perfection in this life. I don't believe that any more. I believe life is a journey and a process.
The book, "The Way of the Small" says this about perfectionism: "Striving for perfection is often confused with the quest for fulfillment: we think that if we can become perfect or create perfect things or situations, we will be happy. Perfection is an ideal, not a fact. Perfection is a good goal, as long as it remains just that-a goal."
I pose this same question to everyone who happens to read my blog. I love reading your comments and would be very interested to hear your answer to this question.