Today would have been their 54th Anniversary!
There were married the day before Thanksgiving in 1955 in Salt Lake City, Utah. They always told us they weren't married in the Mormon temple because none of their families could have been there, so they waited a year before they went to the temple.
This always seemed kind of weird growing up, but I never questioned it. Many years later when all us kids were adults mom finally told the big family secret! They had sex before they were married and therefore couldn't go to the temple for a year! This was a big deal to them in small town Utah and in 1955. I don't think any less of them because they did, it makes them more human and more real people! I love them even more knowing they had weaknesses.
Some of my siblings had a hard time hearing this. I guess they still have a hard time with our parents being human. I learned the hard lesson more than twenty years ago that the root of all my problems wasn't my parents! They did the best the could and they loved each other and all their children.
I always think of my parents during this time of year. We weren't close for a long time, from the mid 1980's when I came out to them till about 1992. The family gathered for the first time in about 15 years in 1995 for their 40th anniversary. They were so happy to have their whole family around them again.
Happy Anniversary mom and dad. I love and miss you!