March 31, 2009


Working hard and playing hard in NYC

I know why people say they love this city, there is an energy and drive here.

March 30, 2009

I've been around the block

Still in Dallas.

Two flights I was booked on were canceled yesterday and about 4 or 5 more were canceled due to weather. So.... I'll be leaving Dallas at 6am this morning. I was not a happy camper yesterday!

I got home from over 5 hours at the airport and read a few blogs. I stole copied this:

I've heard about a kinky little game that makes me look like a big whore.

It's called 'Whoring Across America'

The rules are rather simple. Mark off a state where you have had... um, encounters.

If you hooked up while on vacation in Florida with a guy from Minnesota you consider Florida conquered. You can't count both, this game is about the state that you bumped uglies in.

If you were in a LTR and got busy with your significant other in a particular state, that counts too.

How am I doing? Well, take a look for yourself.

I’ve tackled twenty one of the fifty states so far. Some of them I’ve literally tackled. LOL

visited 21 states (42%)
Create your own visited map of The United States

March 29, 2009

Ride on into the the next town

I'm leave for New York in a few hours for some training for work. I'll be bringing the camera and laptop so look for some pictures in the next few days.

The last time I was in New York City was in about 1992. I'm really looking forward to going back for a visit. I hope to get out into the city in the evenings after the training. I'll have some coworkers with me so I'm not sure if I'll get out much by myself, otherwise I could really get into some trouble! *wink*

Saw this video and found it interesting.

Have a great Sunday and tomorrow's post will be from the Big Apple!

March 28, 2009

Urban dictionary fun

Go to Urban Dictionary and type in your answer to each question in the search box, then write a definition it gives you.

1) Name: Jim
a) A generic nickname used to give to a person of the male gender. Used commonly in hipster circles, mostly back in the '60s and '70s. See Marlon Wayans' character's usage of it in Requiem for a Dream for a good example.
"You hooked us up? Solid, Jim."

b) Slang to describe someone making a mistake or screwing something up
Did you spill pop on your keyboard? Way to Jim it up idiot!

2) How old are you? 47
a) A tall, bald, intimidating individual with a barcode tatooed on the back of his head. Usually wears a suit, tie and black gloves and is a hired killer. When not murdering people for money, he enjoys gardening.

b) The most frequent number to appear in Star Trek shows.

3) One of your friends name: Ryan
a) A bad ass mofo who is the iron chef of pounding vag.
All the woman want him! He has 11 1/2 inches.
Bad ass drinker who will kill your bitch ass if u fuck with him. His friends are bad ass to which is bad ass, bad ass.
Ryan is bad ass i wanna be him!

A boy you ask to have his babies.
Stacy: "I want a baby. I guess I should go call a Ryan!"
Kelly: "Ryan's are so icky."

4) What should you be doing? Working out
a) The act of lifting metal to damage your muscles so they will grow in bigger size so ladies can eat them.
I'm going to go work out to get BEEEEEEEEEEEEEG and make KEEEEEEEEEEDS

5) Favorite food: Sushi
a) A Japanese dish involving rice, fish, vegetables, and seaweed rolled into a small cylinder shape.

b) Slang for "a shaved pussy"
Damn this sushi is good!
I went down to this girl's house and I was like "Damn! I didn't know you had sushi!"

6) Hometown: East Carbon (not in the Urban Dictionary so I found the next closest town called Price)
a) One who chugs vats of semen while reciting lines from various and seemingly random broadway plays. Typically a mormon.
"Whoa, that dude is a price."

b) A person who is either trying to be, or actually is bloody cool.
Something that was awesome or incredible.
Mate, Are you trying to be Price?
That was some of the pricest shit EVER!

7) A word to describe yourself: Honest
a) When something happens exactly as predicted.
"I think Mary's gonna puke."
"Mary puked."
"Oh, man. That was Honest."

b) What everyone wants you to be, but no one wants to hear
Girl: Come on! Be honest am I fat?
Guy: Fine, honestly your fat.
Girl: WTF is wrong with you faggot? I fucking hate you.

8) Last person you talked to on the phone? Mary
a) One who is seemingly innocent. Mary is commonly known as a good girl, for example: the virgin Mary ... however Mary is a bad girl who never gets caught.
person1: ...christian cheerleader? a Mary?!?!
person2: yeah, at practice and church is a goody good... but you should've seen her at the party

b) A name gay men use to refer to each other. It was used extensively in 1960's Greenwich Village to piss off the cops.
Also, while crusing, it's an inconspicuous way to ask someone if there up for it.
"Mary, you look FABULOUS"
"Hey, Mary! quit eatan so many donuts, you fat fuck!!"
"Hey Mary, you lookin for a good night?"

c) Short for marijuana;
such as; Mary Jane
other names;
such as "I heard he sells pretty good MARY"

March 27, 2009


Thirty years ago. Some readers weren't even born, some were toddlers. There are a few of us that remember this year. Disco was dead, The Steelers beat the Cowboys in the Super Bowl, Jimmy Carter was President, The One Child Policy was implemented in China, Heath Ledger was born and I was in high school getting ready to graduate in May.

The number one song on the charts on this day in 1979 was Tragedy by the Bee Gees;

So why am I talking about 1979? This guy caught my eye a few weeks ago at the gym and I saw him again last night. He was looking good, nice trim body, very musclular, dark hair, a hairy chest would be nice, but I am absolutely, 100% positive that he was not even born until sometime way after 1979.

Oh! My! God! A twink! That I think is cute!

I was sure that when he spoke a purse full of glitter would fall out and turn me off, but no! He's butch! WTF?

What am I thinking? I could be older than his father! Now, I have embraced my "daddy-ness" but not in actual terms. I don't want to raise a son or any children!

But after he showered he did put one some capri pants. The attractiveness level did go down a little.

What a tragedy! Please someone, just slap me out of it!

March 26, 2009

Book stuff

I love to read. A few years ago Barnes and Noble were selling a nice hardbound set of many of the classics, I bought about a dozen. I have really enjoyed reading them.

A British media outlet came up with this list of 100 books. The list comes from readers/viewers who submitted their “10 Favorite Books”.

Apparently the average number of books from this list that people have read is six! I thought it would've been more!

1) Look at the list and BOLD those you have read.
2) Italicize the ones on your “to be read” list.
3) Tally your total at the bottom.

1 Pride and Prejudice - Jane Austen
2 The Lord of the Rings - JRR Tolkien
3 Jane Eyre - Charlotte Bronte
4 Harry Potter series - JK Rowling
5 To Kill a Mockingbird - Harper Lee
6 The Bible
7 Wuthering Heights - Emily Bronte
8 Nineteen Eighty Four - George Orwell
9 His Dark Materials - Philip Pullman
10 Great Expectations - Charles Dickens
11 Little Women - Louisa M Alcott
12 Tess of the D’Urbervilles - Thomas Hardy
13 Catch 22 - Joseph Heller
14 Complete Works of Shakespeare
15 Rebecca - Daphne Du Maurier
16 The Hobbit - JRR Tolkien
17 Birdsong - Sebastian Faulk
18 Catcher in the Rye - JD Salinger
19 The Time Traveler’s Wife - Audrey Niffenegger
20 Middlemarch - George Eliot
21 Gone With The Wind - Margaret Mitchell
22 The Great Gatsby - F Scott Fitzgerald
23 Bleak House - Charles Dickens
24 War and Peace - Leo Tolstoy
25 The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy - Douglas Adams
26 Brideshead Revisited - Evelyn Waugh
27 Crime and Punishment - Fyodor Dostoyevsky
28 Grapes of Wrath - John Steinbeck
29 Alice in Wonderland - Lewis Carroll
30 The Wind in the Willows - Kenneth Grahame
31 Anna Karenina - Leo Tolstoy
32 David Copperfield - Charles Dickens
33 Chronicles of Narnia - CS Lewis
34 Emma - Jane Austen
35 Persuasion - Jane Austen
36 The Lion, The Witch and The Wardrobe - CS Lewis
37 The Kite Runner - Khaled Hussein
38 Captain Corelli’s Mandolin - Louis De Bernieres
39 Memoirs of a Geisha - Arthur Golden
40 Winnie the Pooh - AA Milne
41 Animal Farm - George Orwell
42 The Da Vinci Code - Dan Brown
43 One Hundred Years of Solitude - Gabriel Garcia Marquez
44 A Prayer for Owen Meany - John Irving
45 The Woman in White - Wilkie Collins
46 Anne of Green Gables - LM Montgomery
47 Far From The Madding Crowd - Thomas Hardy
48 The Handmaid’s Tale - Margaret Atwood
49 Lord of the Flies - William Golding Yoko
50 Atonement - Ian McEwan
51 Life of Pi - Yann Martel
52 Dune - Frank Herbert
53 Cold Comfort Farm - Stella Gibbons
54 Sense and Sensibility - Jane Austen
55 A Suitable Boy - Vikram Seth
56 The Shadow of the Wind - Carlos Ruiz Zafon
57 A Tale Of Two Cities - Charles Dickens
58 Brave New World - Aldous Huxley
59 The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-time - Mark Haddon
60 Love In The Time Of Cholera - Gabriel Garcia Marquez
61 Of Mice and Men - John Steinbeck
62 Lolita - Vladimir Nabokov
63 The Secret History - Donna Tartt
64 The Lovely Bones - Alice Sebold
65 Count of Monte Cristo - Alexandre Dumas
66 On The Road - Jack Kerouac
67 Jude the Obscure - Thomas Hardy
68 Bridget Jones’s Diary - Helen Fielding
69 Midnight’s Children - Salman Rushdie
70 Moby Dick - Herman Melville
71 Oliver Twist - Charles Dickens
72 Dracula - Bram Stoker
73 The Secret Garden - Frances Hodgson Burnett
74 Notes From A Small Island - Bill Bryson
75 Ulysses - James Joyce
76 The Bell Jar - Sylvia Plath
77 Swallows and Amazons - Arthur Ransome
78 Germinal - Emile Zola
79 Vanity Fair - William Makepeace Thackeray
80 Possession - AS Byatt
81 A Christmas Carol - Charles Dickens
82 Cloud Atlas - David Mitchell
83 The Color Purple - Alice Walker
84 The Remains of the Day - Kazuo Ishiguro
85 Madame Bovary - Gustave Flaubert
86 A Fine Balance - Rohinton Mistry
87 Charlotte’s Web - E.B. White
88 The Five People You Meet In Heaven - Mitch Albom
89 Adventures of Sherlock Holmes - Sir Arthur Conan Doyle
90 The Faraway Tree Collection - Enid Blyton
91 Heart of Darkness - Joseph Conrad
92 The Little Prince - Antoine De Saint-Exupery
94 Watership Down - Richard Adams
95 A Confederacy of Dunces - John Kennedy Toole
96 A Town Like Alice - Nevil Shute
97 The Three Musketeers - Alexandre Dumas
98 Hamlet - William Shakespeare
99 Charlie and the Chocolate Factory - Roald Dahl
100 Les Miserables - Victor Hugo

I have read 12! The list would've been longer of the ones I've read but I just can't get into Jane Austen.

This gives me a great list to work on, I love hearing about great books.

March 25, 2009

Random Question Wednesday

Who would you call if you had an emergency at 4 o'clock in the morning?

An ambulance if it was an emergency! DUH! *cheesy grin*

But if I just had a "I've fallen and I can't get up" moment or some illness I would call my neighbor and friend David. He lives close and could get here quickly. And, most importantly, he wouldn't tease me mercilessly about it for weeks or years later.

If it was an "OMG I'm drunk, come get me out of jail" type emergency I would call my buddy Ryan. He owes me for letting me fall off that barstool in San Diego a few years back, so he could talk to some cute bear while we were waiting for the taxi! But... that's a story for another time. LOL

Ryan, I really really hope you never get that call!

March 24, 2009

Deep Thoughts

Last night I was reading the next section in the book, "The Way of the Small". This section talks about seizing those small moments. "The more we penetrate and flow with what is, the more present we are to seize the moment- particularly, small moments. The art lies as much as in the recognition of the moment as in the seizing of it." The author then talks about when we sometimes miss that moment.

I've noticed that when I practice these principles I miss less of those special moments, this makes life more enjoyable for me.

I often think how life could have been if another choice had been made at some point or another in our lives. There are countless such moments when our lives could have taken a completely different direction. Or one might say their life took this direction because a moment was missed. I know some sci-fi writers have pondered this too and have written many a "what if this happened instead" stories.

This also brings up another thought I have, do you think things happen for a reason? I know a lot of people believe that. I don't. Sometimes a moment happens for a reason, but mostly I believe life is just random. It's up to us to seize a moment or let something pass us by and then make the best of it.

Hhhhmmmm... deep thoughts.

On to something lighter. I saw this video on another blog and thought it was interesting and imaginative. It reminds me of being in New Zealand watching the sheep trails. Enjoy your day:

And people accuse me of having too much time on my hands!! lol

March 23, 2009

Happy Birthday Mom

Today is mom's birthday.
She would have been 77 years old.

I thought I'd post some pictures of her. These first two are her as a baby and toddler in Minnesota.

In this picture she was about 20.
She had moved to Utah to find a mormon husband.

This is my favorite picture of her, we called it her Lucille Ball photo.
She does kind of resembles her don't you think?

This is mom and dad's wedding picture in 1955.

Mom with me in about 1962

Mom loved being a mother.

This was on a trip to Disneyland in about 1972.
Mom was tired from running with 5 children.

This is mom and dad in about 1982.

Me and mom in 2002

A trip to Utah in 2005

2007 was the last time I saw mom, she passed away a few days after her birthday.

I love you mom and miss you.
Happy Birthday!

March 22, 2009

Sunday morning thoughts

Friday started out not so good.
Mr. Policeman said I was going 43 in a 30 and told me that I need to pay the city over $200.00! I didn't even try to notice if Mr. Policeman was cute or not.

Saturday I studied for a little bit in the morning. Exam date number two is April 20. Last chance to pass. UGH!

I used the Lowe's coupon that came in the mail to buy plants. Finally got the patio cleaned up and plants put out. This really lifted my spirits. My neighbor David came over, I threw some chicken boobs on the grill and we steamed some veges, had a little wine and enjoyed a low-key evening.

I'm reading an interesting book on the side called "The Way of the Small, Why Less is More" by Michael Gellert. Here's what I read this morning, "Happiness is less about feeling good than about an attitude of acceptance of life the way it is. Happiness comes from accepting what is, in contrast to pursuing what is not yet." If we practice the principle; "less is more, simpler is better" we eventually learn; "what is, is good enough."

If anyone asks, I can honestly say; "Yes I'm happy!" Things aren't perfect, things just are... and it aint't so bad.

March 21, 2009


I have always had very vivid dreams.

I also dream in color. One of the vivid dreams of my childhood is still imprinted on my mind; I was about 7 or 8 yrs old when I dreamed that I ran through some double doors into this place where I was surrounded by pink and yellow diamonds, I tried to step backwards but couldn't. I walked forward and emerged into an underground world. I've tried to analyze that one for years.

Another vivid dream I had a few years ago was; I was walking around a new home I just bought, I opened a door that I wasn't familiar with and discovered I was running a sweatshop of Asian women making women's panties. I set them free... they were very happy! Another one that no one can analyze (or are afraid to). LOL

I know this video of a dog dreaming has probably been seen a lot on the net, but I relate to the dog with my very real dreams.
My dreams lately have been about different homes. One house is in the town I grew up in and none of the doors stay locked. The next home is filled with a lot of antique furniture and the third house I dream about is a contemporary style house, but my family is there and wanting to take over the better rooms to live in and me and my things keep getting moved further back into the other rooms at the back of the home.

Interesting. These three homes have been in reoccurring dreams most of my life, with only slight variations and different people and family members there.

I have a book that is supposed to help interrupt dreams, it says dreams about a home means you're looking at your life. Does anyone have any more knowledge or insight into dreams? I'd love to hear your views.

March 20, 2009

Spring Equinox - Ostara

Today is the first day of Spring, the Vernal Equinox and the Pagan holiday of Ostara.

Ever since I can remember I have always loved the change of seasons. I am fascinated by the Solstices and Vernal or Autumnal Equinox. The first day of spring and fall is the day when the amount of daylight and darkness are even. In the last year I have studied more of the Pagan beliefs and have enjoyed getting to know the ancient festivals and traditions of the natural changes of the seasons. I knew the Yule traditions were stolen borrowed by the early Christians for Christmas, so are many of the Ostara traditions for Easter.

Try this today: go outside with a raw egg and find a reasonably level place. For a few moments just before and just after the equinox, you can balance the egg upright (wider end down) by simply setting it down on the ground. It should stand up all by itself. This little "trick" brings together two of the most potent aspects of this holiday: the balancing of the earth's gravity midway between the extremes of light and dark at Winter and Summer Solstice; and the symbolism of the egg.

Ostara is a festival of fertility. The fertile earth and the beginnings of new life. Rabbits and eggs are Pagan symbols of fertility.

Anyone who has kept rabbits as pets or knows anything about their biology know that these cute furry creatures reproduce rapidly, and often! Sexual activity is the root of all of life: to honor this activity is to honor our most direct connection to nature.

An egg is also a symbol of fertility and with chicks, they emerge wobbly and slimy from their eggs only to become fluffy, yellow and cute within a few hours.

Some of the things one can do to celebrate Ostara are; planting, start a herb garden, take a walk in nature and do all the Easter related activities.

I say; yes go enjoy nature. But also, "Be an egg" (go get laid) or "Go f*ck like a bunny!"

March 19, 2009


Since an anonymous reader mentioned "woofwax" I thought I'd write about it. Plus, here's the shirtless picture y'all wanted.

My friend Donnie asked me a few years ago if I would be interested in helping him out with this new side business idea he had, "candles with men in mind". He needed someone to model with the candles and I said OK. We headed out to a lake just outside of Dallas one afternoon with his camera. It was fun, I know how they feel on America's Next Top Model, it's hard work. LOL! There are a couple of pics of me on the site. Here is one of the shots he didn't use but I kind of like it.

If anyone goes to a gay rodeo in Texas or a surrounding state you will see Donnie there with his candles and a large poster size photo of me, if you click on 'Saddlehorn' on the website, this is the picture that he has on display at the rodeos. Friends will tell me that they saw me at a rodeo and my first response is, "I wasn't there... oh wait, you saw my woofwax picture".

Anyhoo... go on his website, he would appreciate the traffic. The candles are great, the fragrance stays strong for the life of the candle.

We took some new pictures a couple of months ago for a new scent he has coming out. I wasn't happy with the pictures. I'm looking much older and the camera wasn't very kind. I've heard friends lamenting how they hate getting older! I'm usually OK with it... but I didn't like how it came up and smacked me in the face this time! UGH.

March 18, 2009

Random Question Wednesday

What would you do if your best friend forgot your birthday? How would you feel?

To be funny (my weird sense of humor) I start reminding friends at the beginning of August that they have a limited number of shopping days left until my birthday. So if they forget I'm really surprised! lol

I probably wouldn't do anything except sulk a little. I'm not sure how I would feel. I would be disappointed and a little upset because a best friend is someone who should always be there for you. Part of me says I should take a step back and see what is going on in their life at the moment; is there some drama in their life? Is there stress and huge amounts of work? But the other part of me says; how long would it take to make a quick call or a quick email or something to say "I'm thinking of you on your birthday"?

This is something I'm used to from my family though, we've never been good about birthdays. Many a birthday has come and gone without even a call from anyone in my family. I try to at least call someone on their birthday. I do need to make a better effort though as I'm not always good at it with the family.

(this is Demon Llama - seeing red for me!)LOL

March 17, 2009

Happy St Patrick's Day

Pictures from the St Paddy's Day party on Saturday.
Which one is the better look for me?

My friend Brant in the picture with me was wondering; do people really read the blogs because they want to read about other people's lives or does the blog writer's looks have something to do with it? He wants to know if people who read my blog want me to bare my soul or bare my chest? I told him I thought it was about even, here's why. The most comments I received was on a post about leaving the mormon church. And the most visitors to my site in 1 day was when I posted a shirtless picture.
Leave me a comment and let me know what you think.

Maybe someone with more readers can ask this same question and see what response you get.

March 16, 2009


On Friday a friend told me to put the April 17th weekend on my calendar for going camping. I love camping! A few years ago I found a booklet that listed all the state parks in Texas and what camping facilities were at each park. I have been to a lot of them. Lake Ray Roberts north of Dallas is my favorite spot so far, but its further away since I moved. I'll have to explore more that are in the south Dallas area now.

I saw this article a while ago that talks about a new style of camping called "Glamping"

Several years ago I went with some friends to a gay camp at Lake Murray in southern Oklahomo called Camp Willowswish. It's primitive camping, the closest facilities are about 5 miles away, but that didn't stop people from bring a lot of things to make their camp more comfortable. I saw carpet, decorations, houseplants and generators for their A/C, lights and music. The weekend was capped off with a drag show and the crowning of Miss Willowswish. Not really my type of camping, but hanging with my friends and watching all the guys in the lake during the day was fun!

I'm definitely more of a rugged camper. My idea of camping is; getting a tent set up, blowing up an air mattress (OK, I do like a little comfort), building a fire pit and gathering wood. Then opening a beer and settling back to enjoy the peace and quiet of nature! I'll also turn off my cell phone and go hiking, swimming or biking. Or if I'm with friends I just enjoy conversation, playing dominoes or cards.

I don't think I'll go "Glamping" anytime soon!!

March 15, 2009

Profiled at work

Our department send an email every Friday morning that profiles a different employee. I was the lucky one on Friday. Thought I'd share it here.

This week's "Know Your Partner" profile is:
Jim Stuff

What was your first job at the bank?
I started with the bank in the Main St. lobby in 1996.

What are some of your hobbies? Camping, biking, hiking, photography and renaissance festivals.

Tell us something about your life at home: Just bought a condo 6 months ago. Family all lives in Utah. No pets.

What would your co-workers be surprised to learn about you? I owned my own business, "Andon's Deli and Bar" in downtown Baltimore, MD. And even though I am from Utah I have never been snow skiing.

When you were a child, what did you want to be when you grew up? I wanted to be an elementary school principal.

What book are you currently reading?
I love historical fiction. The book I'm reading now is "Worlds Without End" by Ken Follett, about 15th century England.

Where have you lived in your life?
I have lived in 6 different states (UT, NV, OK, MD, CO & TX) and visited 47. I also lived in New Zealand for several years.

Who is the most famous person you've met? Dionne Warrick stopped in the deli and we talked to her for about half an hour. Having grown up in Utah I have met most of the Osmonds.

Do you have a funny client or work story? When I was working in the banking center I met with a difficult client. I gave him a phone number to call about his check order and mistakenly transposed two of the numbers. The wrong number was, well... not for children or for good church-going people.

What your coworkers are saying about you:
Jim is a wonderful person! He makes life very pleasant and fun for our department by sharing his funny stories. I am glad to know and work with him. Jim has a great personality and a wealth of knowledge. He is a guru of many things. There is very little that Jim does not know. He makes coming to work more enjoyable. He has traveled many places and met people from all walks of life. He details his life on his blog which is both interesting and thought provoking. Our department is blessed to have Jim as a part of our team.

What can I say about Jim? I’ve worked with Jim for a few years now and have enjoyed every minute of it. Jim is very knowledgeable about many things and always there to help when needed. He’s my go to person when I get in a jam on how to maneuver something I’m trying to do on Word or Excel. He is always willing to help and never says no to anyone. That’s the work side of Jim, but there is also the “spiritual” side of Jim, if you want to call it that. Jim has aspired to becoming “a man of the cloth” through the internet and he has the certificates to back it up. So if you ever feel the need for a confessional, a blessing or some sort of intervention, Jim is your man. He keeps all of us upbeat in our little corner of the world.

Well, first I must say "still waters run deep". Jim is one of the most interesting guys I've ever worked with. He's always up to something - whether it's finding voodoo spray for virtually any purpose, scoping out the newest restaurants in town or taking and sharing fabulous photographs. I've had the pleasure of working directly with Jim in two distinct roles (he might say I'm like a bad penny - I just keep coming back.) Jim is unflappable and handles the details thrown at him in the department with efficiency and intellect. We are lucky to have him.

Jim is a dependable team member who is always available to pitch in when needed. He is also quite creative and fun to be around. A little known fact about Jim--did you know he was an ordained clergy member? Stop by for a blessing some time!

March 14, 2009


I saw this video clip and loved it. Sometimes we all feel like this. We never know when we pass someone on the street, in the office, in the elevator or the car next to us on the road if they are lonely. We never know if a smile would brighten their whole day. If we could just say hello it might make a difference in their life. It might end up being someone special that you could be friends with for a long time or a loved one.
Just something to think about....

March 13, 2009

Dancing and stuff

I love to dance and love to two-step, (I'm bi-directional by the way). This is a great song to dance to! When I was in Atlanta a few years back I danced with a hot guy to this song and we just clicked, it was great! I always say, there is nothing better than good music and flowing around the dance floor with a good dance partner. If I were ever to enter a dance contest again I would dance to this song.

The next song that came up on Youtube was this next video. It made me laugh. Hope it brings a smile to your face too.

Happy Friday everyone!

March 12, 2009

Tattoo Parlor

Tuesday afternoon I went back to get the tat on my calf touched up. I had noticed that the ink was spotty in some areas and parts were either fading or getting lighter. The artist said "no problem" and started getting his equipment set up. Soon I was up on the table, my jean leg pulled up to my knee when that familiar pain started.

I got out my phone and texted a few friends to let them know that I didn't pass the big exam I had spent the last several months studying for. The pain was kind of what I needed to clear my mind from all the securities market-makers, the municipal bond syndicate bidding, the hypothetical client wanting to long an uncovered put and the same poor client who had to cover a maintenance call on his long margin account, mumble-jumble that was still rattling around my brain.

I needed to stop feeling sorry for myself, that I had missed passing by just a few questions. I stopped myself and started looking at the variety of people in the establishment, the tattoo parlor.

Let me try to describe the cast of characters. The latina with a muffin top getting a "Hello Kitty" tattooed on part of the muffin and her boyfriend. The heavy-set guy that looked like Shaggy from Scooby Do getting the massive scene on his back completed (it looked like it was a cross between asian art and a nightmare - art is very subjective). There was the 18 yr old guy getting his first and in obvious pain with all his buddies there to support him. The thug-looking guy getting "ten-?" (I couldn't see what it was since the artist was working on that section) in 5 inch bold letters on his stomach. And finally the lady with the wild hair getting her lower lip pierced.

And why is it that all tattoo artists have a tattoo sleeve on one of their arms? It was definitely busier than I thought it would be for a Tuesday at 4pm.

Then the thought came to me that these places of business never really go by the old name of a "Tattoo Parlor" anymore, do they? That brings up visions of an old smoke filled room with lots of shady characters glancing about, hoping no one sees them in such a seedy place.

I noticed the mirror in front of me and snapped this shot with the cell phone. My mood was lifting and my mind was clearing. Thank God!

Who knows, maybe one of those people who were there are blogging about their experience. God, how would they be describing me?

March 11, 2009

Random Question Wednesday

Describe the home you would like to design for yourself.

When I was a teenager I thought I would have liked to have been an architect. I found some graph-paper and drew a lot of home designs. I even made some models out of cardboard. I don't have those anymore, but I still love looking at blueprints and drawings.

I don't need a big home. But the must have items would be a modern kitchen and bathrooms. A friend has a Japanese style bathroom with the faucet for the overflow bathtub in the ceiling.

But I think the most import thing would be windows. I would love a home that has a lot of windows, maybe even floor to ceiling windows. The reason, I love having houseplants. Here is a picture of one of the bay-windows in my home now:

Close to where I work in downtown Dallas there is a new exhibit hall called The Nasher Sclupture Center. The building is amazing. The ceiling is beautiful, the architect shaded the glass roof/ceiling with elegant aluminum honeycombs. The openings are angled due north so there is no direct sunlight.

Of course my home would have to have all of these. Is that too much to ask?

March 10, 2009

Mormon no more

The following letter came in the mail yesterday:

March 3, 2009

Dear Brother Jim Stuff,

This letter is to notify you that, in accordance with your request, you are no longer a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

Should you desire to become a member of the Church in the future, the local bishop or branch president will be happy to help you.


Member and Statistical Records

Well, that's another chapter in my life that is now closed.

Recently I had my own Reconnect/Disconnect with a person I knew in high school. TM found me on Facebook (I'll call him "Tortured Mormon" - TM for short). TM decided that I needed to be saved, brought back into the fold and he was the one to help me. TM could tell (from my 2 inch square) picture that I still had that look, that "I still know the church is true look." Mind you I haven't seen TM in about thirty years! Of course he jumps into this stream of mormon rhetoric about how it is possible to change if only you'd pray enough and want it bad enough, blah blah blah!

I promptly told TM that the rhetoric has to STOP if we are ever to become friends. I tell him that I resigned from the church because of their stand against civil rights. Oh, here's the part of why I call him TM, we played around when we were about 12 or 13. He admitted in the first email that he struggles everyday with "same-sex attraction". So this prompts me to ask him if he's depressed. I tell him how I've been studying, when I can, the Eastern religions of Buddha and Hindu. How meditation brings me calm and peace.

This threw him into another rage where he said basically, that homosexually is a sin just like being a serial rapist, serial murderer, a pedophile, drug addict, etc. I don't like being compared with any of those! I promptly replied; "Who the hell do you think you are to judge me like that?" Again, another good example of a Christian not being very Christ-like, when did he ever preach hate and that it is OK to judge someone that harshly? I told TM that it's because of ignorant people like him that I'm glad I left the church.
TM is now blocked on facebook.

So for more reasons than ever, I'm happy that this chapter in my life is closed.

March 9, 2009

Amen Sista!

Poor Betty... I know how she feels.

March 8, 2009

Where do you get your sense of humor?

I was looking through old photo albums and I found this picture.This is me as a toddler with mom.

Mom always had a funny story, a joke or would just act silly with us. Mom's sense of humor was not as offbeat as mine, but close.

March 6, 2009

Smoke gets in your eyes...

One night several years ago I had some wine, had some candles lit and had a nice relaxing evening. As I was getting ready for bed I started blowing out the candles and watched again in amazement how the smoke curls up. A flash of inspiration hit and I ran for my camera and tripod.
Here are some of my best shots:

Sometimes I remind myself to stop running from one thing to the next. I slow down and take my time. Then I like to look for things that I think might make a good photograph, if a shadow looks interesting or if there is beauty in the perfect geometry of something I imagine how it would look if I could capture it in time. Sometimes it doesn't translate well in a picture, sometimes it clicks and the result, in my humble opinion, is truly amazing.

March 5, 2009

Buddha Quote and deep thoughts

"Whatever words we utter should be chosen with care for people will hear them and be influenced by them for good or ill."

I saw this quote and it really got me thinking.

Sometime we don't realize that what we say and what we put out there in the world will have an effect on someone. I think I offended a friend with my post on Monday about porn in Utah in stating my opinion at the end. I apologize if it did offend her. I also realize that even little things might be offensive to someone; like some person might read my "pet-peeve" from my A-Z post and be really offended because they see no harm at all in standing on an escalator! (It should escalate you to the next floor, make a few less steps when climbing the stairs! It's not called a lazy people mover!) lol

So, what got me thinking is this; how do we be mindful of all we say and yet still be entitled to our opinions? I know the saying; "opinions are like assholes; everyone has one, and they all stink!"

I guess I will rely on what I learned in another book, 'The Four Agreements' by Miguel Ruiz. He talks about the importance of being impeccable with your word: "Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love."

I would like to think that this quote from the Dalai Lama would apply here:
"Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship."

March 4, 2009

Random Question Wednesday - and my 100th post!

If you could relive one year of your life, what year would it be? Why?

There is no qualifier on this question; if I could go back to just relive the year or be able to go back knowing what I know now! So I think I'll address both:

1) If I could go back just to relive a year, I would go back to 1988. I was 27 yrs old and still a hottie (relative to the times). I was living in Baltimore, MD. I had a great job, a good boss, meeting lots of people, dating a lot and enjoying the single life. I would go to NYC about twice a year. I had many friends in DC and would go there a couple time a month to the restaurants, bars and clubs. I had traveled around the historical sights on the east coast which is something I love to do. And I had a house that I loved.

That's me and mom going into my home in Baltimore

That’s the screened in deck on the back of my home.

I had great friends and this was the year that I first went to Europe! My friend Mike and I went to Paris and then took the train to Turin, Italy. Life was great!

I got out all my old photos; it was a fun trip down memory lane. Here are some pics from the trip:

Me in Paris (kind of looks like a big pointy hat doesn't it?) LOL

Mike and I in Paris

Mike's friends in Turin

2) If I could go back knowing what I know now... I'd go back to 2005. I had just started dating Valdemort and I was seeing lots of red flags and I had a gut feeling he was lying to me about some important stuff. Things with him were just not quite right!

If I was able to go back, I would have trusted my gut feelings and dumped his ass! I’m sure I would have ended up much happier in the long run. Hindsight really is 20/20!

I want to invite other people to post the same question on their blogs and what year you would want to relive. I look forward to reading your response!

March 3, 2009

Random Fun Stuff

(embiggen the picture, it's pretty cool a bit bigger)
I just created my very first CD album!

This was interesting and kinda fun. Here are the instructions on how to do it:

1. Go to wikipedia's "random" page:
The first random article is the name of your band.

2. Go to Quotations Page's "random quotations"
The last few words of the very last quote on the page is the title of your album.

3. Go to this Flickr site that pulls "random images"
The third picture no matter what, will be your album cover.

4. Use photoshop or Picnik, to be creative and put it all together.

Let me know if anyone else does this too.

Plus I'm happy that I found a new photoshopish-type website!!! Already created an account. Can't wait to upload some of my own photography!

btw, can enyone tell me how to tag other bloggers in a post? I can't figure it out!

March 2, 2009

Porn in Utah? Oh my GOSH! It can't be true....

Utah: Online Porn Capital Of The USA

It's kind of fascinating that Utah turns out to be the highest per capita consumer of online porn!

A Harvard Business School study has compared two years of online porn purchases with the zip codes attached to the purchasers' credit cards.

"When it comes to adult entertainment, it seems people are more the same than different," says Benjamin Edelman at Harvard Business School. However, there are some trends to be seen in the data. Those states that do consume the most porn tend to be more conservative and religious than states with lower levels of consumption, the study finds. "Some of the people who are most outraged turn out to be consumers of the very things they claimed to be outraged by," Edelman says. The biggest consumer, Utah, averaged 5.47 adult content subscriptions per 1000 home broadband users; Montana bought the least with 1.92 per 1000. Number 10 on the list was West Virginia at 2.94 subscriptions per 1000, while number 41, Michigan, averaged 2.32.

I found this bit of the story the most interesting:

Residents of 27 states that passed laws banning gay marriages boasted 11% more porn subscribers than states that don't explicitly restrict gay marriage. To get a better handle on other associations between social attitudes and pornography consumption, Edelman melded his data with a previous study on public attitudes toward religion. States where a majority of residents agreed with the statement "I have old-fashioned values about family and marriage," bought 3.6 more subscriptions per thousand people than states where a majority disagreed. A similar difference emerged for the statement "AIDS might be God's punishment for immoral sexual behavior."

It's also interesting that Utah also has the highest teenage pregnancy rate.

There are good people in Utah. And a growing number of non-Mormons. But you can't blame the porn and the teen pregnancy on the non-Mormons and the jack-Mormons!

That means there are a bunch (more than the average of other states) of good church-going Mormons that look at porn! And I know there's a lot of pressure to look and act and make everyone think that they're living up to some high standard. That's the hypocrisy. And the hypocrisy of the Mormon church leaders. They stick their heads in the sand and are just way out of touch with reality!

Thanks Joe for the story!

March 1, 2009

Fireman Ross video

This video is hilarious! Come on guys... how many of you wish that you could go hang out the hot fireman like this!

Reality check though... they're not all hot pornstar type men with perfect bodies. Damn reality!