Of those who saw it, did you like it?
I liked it but it really got me thinking. If you haven't seen it this will be a spoiler post so go watch it, then come back and read this post.
The movie starts off with an important statement. The guy believes that there is that one special person for everyone. That soul mate that is out there waiting to meet you, one that you're meant to be with forever.
I don't believe this.
I grew up believing it because Mormons feel this way. They believe that we made a bond with one person in our pre-earth life that we are meant to meet and spend the rest of our lives together.
But seeing how I believe that life is just random; things just happen to us and that it's up to us to make the best of whatever happens, this doesn't fit that just one person is meant for us. Things change, people change, we all make decisions in life that send us down very different paths that we can't see when we make the decision. I think that we can fall in love with someone and then fall out of love. We may change or they may change or circumstances change and a relationship ends. We can then move on to meet someone else who we can love and will love us in return.
But if we think and believe that we will know that this person we just met is "the one" for us, as the main character in the movie did, then we can ignore the signs and red flags that appear to let us know that the relationship isn't going anywhere, as was the case of the guy in the movie.
I know a lot of bloggers friend are in long term committed relationships, so I want to ask them; Do you believe in "the one"? Is a soul mate a lifetime contract? Or is it really just day to day living and loving? Is your partner your soul mate? I'd really like to know...
6 comments:
People are like waves. We have crests and troughs. Sometimes your crest will intersect with your man's crest and the times could not be better. Other times your trough will intersect with his and it seems like the relationship is doomed. Most of the time it is somewhere between the extremes.
I believe a soul mate's wave is perfectly opposite of yours so that all the crests and troughs are precisely countered and a steady state results. You and your man are the perfect couple, but lack the intense emotional swings that other couples experience. These swings are what's called "the spice of life" and I believe they are needed for true happiness.
You can have a "soul mate" and it can be smooth sailing, or you can have a soul mate and it can be tough going.
Just because one does, or does not, believe in the idea of a soul mate, or "the one," doesn't negate the fact that every ralationship takes work.
Carlos and I have our share of difficult times and fights and disagreements, but we choose to work through them then to let them ruin us.
It's a connection, but you can never take it for granted. Just because you find your "soul mate" doesn't mean there won't be tough times.
Here we go....
the notion of one person being your ultimate soul mate is complete nonsense; and the sooner we realize it and get over it the better.
As we all evolve and grow, our mates to our soul also coming go.
You want to know who your real soulmate is? kind of person you cannot stand/ gets on your nerves the most. Your nemesis - THAT is your soulmate.
*Atheist Rant Alert*
Thank you Ur-spo!
Couldn't agree more. What a load of crock.
Of course you can be happy and have a wonderful life with your other half but everyone changes over time and circumstances change.
Soul mate, fate, karma.... sorry no. Live your life, live by your decisions. There is no cosmic destiny.
Be happy. Be good to yourself and others. Love.
the only "one" I can count on is me myself and I.
Jim, I'm sure you know Stan and I are in a closed, committed relationship and I do consider us soul mates,whatever that means, but I don't rely on that as a failsafe. Chance plays a huge part in life; there is no such thing as destiny in my mind, unless you create it, but then it wouldn't really be destiny. I think every relationship has potential and every relationship requires work. Most relationships are what you put into them, and you make choices that alter them, enhance them, or degrade them. I think another problem in todays relationships is what I call the "Hollywood effect." That's when people have expectations of life that are entirely unrealistic and they expect life to imitate fantasy. It won't.
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