Over the weekend I finally watched the movie 500 Days Of Summer.
Of those who saw it, did you like it?
I liked it but it really got me thinking. If you haven't seen it this will be a spoiler post so go watch it, then come back and read this post.
The movie starts off with an important statement. The guy believes that there is that one special person for everyone. That soul mate that is out there waiting to meet you, one that you're meant to be with forever.
I don't believe this.
I grew up believing it because Mormons feel this way. They believe that we made a bond with one person in our pre-earth life that we are meant to meet and spend the rest of our lives together.
But seeing how I believe that life is just random; things just happen to us and that it's up to us to make the best of whatever happens, this doesn't fit that just one person is meant for us. Things change, people change, we all make decisions in life that send us down very different paths that we can't see when we make the decision. I think that we can fall in love with someone and then fall out of love. We may change or they may change or circumstances change and a relationship ends. We can then move on to meet someone else who we can love and will love us in return.
But if we think and believe that we will know that this person we just met is "the one" for us, as the main character in the movie did, then we can ignore the signs and red flags that appear to let us know that the relationship isn't going anywhere, as was the case of the guy in the movie.
I know a lot of bloggers friend are in long term committed relationships, so I want to ask them; Do you believe in "the one"? Is a soul mate a lifetime contract? Or is it really just day to day living and loving? Is your partner your soul mate? I'd really like to know...