I read the following this week: "Forgiveness is the vehicle for changing our perceptions and letting go of our fears, condemning judgments and grievances.
Forgiveness [is] a process of letting go and overlooking whatever we thought other people may have done to us, or whatever we may think we may have done to them.
When we cherish grievances we allow our minds to be fed by fear....
Forgiveness does not mean assuming a position of superiority and putting up with or tolerating behavior in another person that we do not like. Forgiveness means correcting our misperception that the other person harmed us.
The unforgiving mind is confused, afraid and full of fear."
Love Is Letting Go Of Fear
I have mentioned on the blog before that I have had a difficult time understanding forgiveness, I felt that it would put me in a weak position and make me feel vulnerable and in a state where someone could walk all over me. I see this is a misconception I've had.
I have also publicly villainized my ex, who I called Valdemort. I see that I was putting myself in a superior state and playing the part of the victim; when all I had to do was change my perception, forgive, and just move on with my life. I feel I need to say this publicly: It's time to let it go. I forgive Jeff (Valdemort) I wish him only the best.
No one can hurt me; they may say things and act in a way that I don't like, but if I hold on to the fear, anger and the hurt it only hurts my own soul and my own peace of mind. I need to let it go, have a forgiving heart and I will benefit by having peace of mind. Then I can forgive myself on things that I have done. I have never intentionally tried to hurt anyone and I need to feel some peace of mind about that too.
This is still easier said than done, but I am working on these concepts every day.
I am choosing peace of mind rather than let my hurts from the past be projected as fear into my present and future. I choose to be loving rather than fearful.