August 30, 2010

3 words to describe last year

3 words part 2

The other part of my original post from the movie Eat Pray Love was to use three words to describe my last year. Here are my words and why I chose them:

Since Jimmas 2009 I blogged every day. Even when I didn't feel inspired I still felt compelled to write or post something. The weekends were especially hard when I was traveling to Houston for the Renaissance Faires, but it was something I enjoyed doing. It was good to feel this creative flow. And I really enjoyed making new blogger friends.

Not a good four months for me. The stress level at work was increasing and there were too many demands in my weekends. I reacted instead of acting appropriately. This lead to more stress and a tough work situation. I also felt I wasn't relaxing enough on the weekends. Too many things to do and too little time. I did enjoy my friends and that was my only saving grace. I just got way too busy with things...

After the last 4 months I finally said enough! Since no one was changing to make me happier I finally realized I had to change. I thought I had learned this lesson years ago, but I guess I have to have a refresher course every now and again; the lesson that the only constant thing in life is change. I really worked on making changes in my life. I changed my attitude and my expectations too. I had to let go of somethings and change my outlook on life... again! But what a wonderful thing these changes brought me... a new man who understands me. A handsome man, but also a wonderful and caring man. Someone who I can enjoy life with as I want to live and who also wants the same things from this journey called life.

So now that Jimmas 2010 has passed, what will the new year bring?

August 26, 2010

Random thoughts

I have been on vacation all week. Well actually a "staycation" since my cousin has been in town who I haven't seen in about 20 years!

We've been catching up on all the family gossip, the goings on in each other's lives and retelling many stories of the past. It's been great to hang out together.

Next week I hope to get back on schedule and catch up on all my friend's blogs.

Have a great weekend!

August 24, 2010

3 words

As I mentioned in my last post I wanted to think of three words that would describe my passions in life, or lessons I've learned. Here are my words and why they are important to me:

I am a strong believer that you need passion in your life. And no, not just in the bedroom. (Although passion there is great!!) I remember talking to my teenage niece once about what she wanted to do with her life and I talked to her a lot about what she really loved. It's different for everyone; it's sports for some people, art, writing, work, politics, dancing, cooking, their church... whatever it is embrace it with love and reckless abandon. I don't understand people who don't feel passionate about something in their life. What is Jim's passion, you ask? I have many. Renaissance faires and dancing are some of my top things.

This word includes my first word of passion, but it extends beyond myself. When you find your passion in caring about others, that is compassion. It could just be the love you have for your friends, it could be involvement in bettering your community (and not just the town you live in, it's the gay community or the political community). It could be how you treat the homeless person you see on the street. Do you look away, avoid eye contact? Or do you have contempt for them? How do you feel about the religious right wing? We know they hate us, will we stoop to that same level? Compassion is not a "christian" thing, it's a loving and caring 'thing'. Do you really care about others... or as some do; only the pretty people? I first learned about compassion when I owned my Deli in Baltimore and in my many customer service positions in my work career. I have learned to respect others and in doing so I improve myself.

Have you ever experienced loss or tragedy? Have you ever hit rock bottom? I have... and I'm still here to tell about it. I have learned from those low points that I have hidden strength. I believe that we all have the power in us to do great things and to overcome whatever obstacle we have in front of us. Where do we get that strength to go on? Maybe it comes with maturity? Maybe it comes from dealing with life and all that it brings us. But it takes effort, it takes energy, it takes willingness to change. I have learned the hard lesson that the only constant thing in life is change. Things will not always be rosy, it will not always be a sunny perfect day. And it is my own choice, my own inner strength that makes me enjoy the beautiful day better. The rock-bottom helps me appreciate the high that will eventually come.

Let me know if you had a 3 word posting on your blog.

August 17, 2010

Upcoming Blog post

I've been thinking about the movie I saw last week; Eat Pray Love. It gave me a great idea for a future blog post. But I want to be able to put a lot of thought into it.

Anyone want to join me and write about the same topic on your blog?

What three words would describe your last year? Or what three words would describe a lesson you've learned? Or what three would describe your passions in life?

If you do take this challenge, let me know... I think this would be a great little project.

Hope y'all are doing well...
I'm happy!!
(Thanks Richard for being such a wonderful man!!)

August 12, 2010

12 on the 12th

A day in Jim's life... and the 12 pictures on the 12th too!

Jim taking a sick day.... staying in bed!!

I gave everyone a good drink!

Watched Mad Men!

Grapes... YUM! A healthy snack for once...

Doing errands and such...

Flowers at Whole Foods


It is HOT!!

The bandage from yesterday's cyst removal! Ouch!

At the theater...

Great Movie!!! (Special screening)

Going home after a great day!

Of course I spent the evening with Richard, but I respect his privacy and wishes for no pictures on the blog. He is a great man and I am really enjoying getting to know him.

August 11, 2010

Random Question Wednesday

I know it's been a while... but here I go with the next Random Question:

Complete the sentence: When I look in the mirror, I ___________________.

This question came at a good time in my life. I would have answered it differently years ago and while growing up... and maybe even last year! But I am at a very content place in my life where I am happy in my own skin.

Sometimes I hope I see a younger version of myself in the mirror, but nope... it's me, a guy about to turn 49 years old in a few weeks.

Thinking about this topic makes me think of a song from an old obscure move that my mom loved called Lost Horizon. It was a musical from 1973 with the music by Burt Bacharach. Listen to the words of this song:

When I look in the mirror, I see me! Me as I am today. Me living in the moment. Me accepting myself; the flaws and imperfections, the good qualities and the slight craziness too! The broken nose that healed a little crooked. The gray hairs spreading more and more (damn them!!) I see the years that have shaped the person who I am today.

As you gaze into your own mirror, what do you see?

August 8, 2010

20 days!

Until Jimmas!!

If anyone hasn't ever hear of Jimmas, it's like Christmas... but for me! LOL!!

The weekend was great!

If y'all must know... I've been seeing someone the last couple of weeks! I don't want to give away too many details, but he is a really great guy! He makes me smile and appreciate life. Oh, and is very handsome too!

Hope y'all had a great weekend.

August 7, 2010


Yin and Yang: used to describe how polar or seemingly contrary forces are interconnected and interdependent in the natural world, and how they give rise to each other in turn. They are complementary opposites within a greater whole.

I admit, there are many things about me that fit this: At times I'm very shy and other times I can be very outgoing.

Sometimes I'm very private and then I go and post a video of me dancing in my shower!

At times very happy and satisfied with life, other times I wan to crawl into a hole.

I attended BYU and was a Mormon Missionary. Then a few years later I was applying for a liquor license for my bar and deli in Baltimore. I am now a Pagan and proud to be!

Isn't life always like this? There are natural opposites in life. Should these opposing forces hinder or scare us? Not at all in my book... it's better if I embrace them and enjoy the differences.

Just sharing some random thoughts on a reflective Saturday morning.

Happy weekend y'all!

August 4, 2010

Still here


I'm still hangin' around... still happy!

Just busy!

I miss reading my friend's blogs and will take more time to catch up with y'all.

I appreciate everyone stopping by to leave a comment. It means a lot to me.