This is a question asked in a movie preview I watched for Were the World Mine.
It made me stop and think.
I know it's one of those questions like: "If you could have a superpower what would it be?" But it made me think that I may have already been doing that? Don't all of us try to do that? At least sometimes?
I have been in love; not just lust, but real, head-over-heels, with all my heart and soul, kind of love. But there have been times when I thought I was in love or wanted very badly to have someone love me that I thought I was trying to make them love me. And I have also felt that I have begged someone to love me, yet I wasn't fulfilled. There have been times too that I have longed to be in love and thought I was.
I know the saying; you have to truly love yourself before you can love someone else. And I also know that love freely given is 10 times, no 100 times better than an unrequited love.
It would be a nice fantasy to answer yes! I could probably name several celebrity men that I would if I could. But I can't, so I won't. I have tried to make someone love me, but it never worked.
I have to be content with myself and just enjoy the people in my life. Love will be given freely to me when it is least expected, and not demanded.
This epiphany should help me relax and enjoy the abundant love I have in my life now from family and friends.
This epiphany should help me relax and enjoy the abundant love I have in my life now from family and friends.
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this post makes me cry cause it touches a nerve close to the heart. currently happening in real life. wanna crawl in a hole and die.
The sad truth is that love is not always reciprocated and we do not always fall in love with the right people. Yes, we try to make those we want love us, sometimes by being who we think they want us to be or sometimes just by putting our best foot and qualities forward.
I have felt the sharp sting of unrequited love; sometimes the target was gentle with their rebuff, sometimes not so much. I have also felt the guilt of not returning the feelings for someone who was wonderful and loved me deeply but I was unable to return the feelings.
Love is tricky and tough. It can be wonderful and horrible depending on the person and situation.
But I wouldn't want to live in a world without love, despite the risks and the pain it has caused me. Great post Jim.
Aside to AM: *hug*
I don't like the idea that I have to make someone love me. I won't do that.
Being head-over-heals in love with someone who is at the same time head-over-heals in love with you is a rarity that few people experience. I hope it happens to you someday. I think you are most worthy of such happiness.
A common theme in stories throughout man's existence is you can't make people fall in love with you. Love unconditional and without force is no love at all.
It seems to be a Life rule.
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