Five Degrees Meme - day 4

Stevie (over at nicetoseestevieb) proposed a Five Degrees meme. Five questions to be answered to give greater insight into the writer’s psyche.

Day Four:
Crush/Lust

I'm a bit perplexed by this topic!

Is it; "what's the difference between the two"? Is it about a person I currently have a crush on or lust after? Is it about my first crush? Do I get a choice to have one or the other? Should I reveal names of blogger buddies that I lust after? Is it about an orange or grape drink?

Well... this is my choice:

I think I have a very different view of lust than most people. Wanting someone is a package deal for me. I may see someone who is extremely handsome but I want to talk to him too. Then if the personality is bad it's all ruined. I also don't look at a guy like just a body part.

I've heard this joke but don't like it:

What's the useless piece of skin on the penis?

"The man"

Meh. I'm not like that. It's a package deal (no pun intended). A man is more attractive to me if he has a great personality and is attracted to me. There has to be some attraction there to get my attention in the first place; but I like someone with a sense of humor, intelligence, a steady job and a good sense of reality too.

For me, if one lusts after something then they want to own and posses it. And that's not fulfilling for me. Love freely given is way better than lust.

Now, when I meet someone and I see all those good qualities in them, then I develop a crush on them. A crush can be fun and flirty. I've admitted I have a secret crush on a fellow blogger. It's harmless because this hottie buddy lives in another city and state! Nothing will come of it (that I know of) because I have no travel plans to said city and state, nor does he have plans to visit Dallas. It's just that I admire a lot of qualities in this person.

I also see some of my straight friends that have a 'man crush' on another guy, so a crush isn't always sexual; whereas with lust, sex is the only thing you want. A crush is a nice little fantasy. In fact, I can can think of several blogger buds that I have a little crush on! I'm not naming names, but y'all know who you are....

*wink*