In 1985 I went to my first gay country-western bar. I had just moved to Oklahoma City.
I had been a Ballroom Dancer at BYU a few years earlier and I quickly caught on that the two-step is basically the same dance steps as the foxtrot.
I watched the dancing for a while and then realized I wanted to learn how to follow. Which I soon learned was about giving up control.
After many months of stumbles and stepping on toes I finally learned how to let go and let someone else be in control. This was more difficult than I thought! I could appreciate Ginger Rogers more now... she did all those great dance steps, in heels and she did them backwards too!
When I finally felt like I could follow I turned the tables and let my friends know I could lead. I am now bi-directional.
There are some other things in life where we have to gives up control. Knowing the things we can control and the things that we have no power over is a difficult lesson to learn.
I can't control the weather. I can't control traffic. Or other people, their moods and attitudes. I need to give up feeling like I have to control these things.
I can control my diet. I can control my activity level. I can control my mood and attitude and how I respond to people.
Sometimes we have to give up the control and trust too! Just like on the dance floor, it's good when I can close my eyes and just follow someone else's lead; totally trust them with the direction we will go. Why do I fight it in life then? Why can't I just sway to the music and let go with the rhythm of life?