I was talking with a friend the other night, he mentioned that a few gay couples he knows have seemed to move quickly into a relationship. And then seem to break up just as fast. He was wondering why. I told him it's because of what I mentioned earlier; we live in a world of instant gratification.
At least it's this way for those of us in the dating world. I often envy my blogger friends that have the LTR already.
Anyway.... it's the weekend! Woohoo!
Make the most of each second you have.
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I have often said the only thing I have done right in my life is marry Jeffrey. In a world of multiple marriages, rapid divorces, people breaking up over the smallest things, moving in together after a week, love to hate relationships, etc. etc. I really am proud that Jeffrey and I are coming up on 14 years together and still very much want to be together. Some have told us our relationship would fail eventually (because all do) or that the choices we make are going to cripple our commitment, but we are still here, strong, happy and together. So whatever we're dong, it's working. It is the longest relationship I have ever had with anyone, save my immediate family, and even those have fallen by the wayside.
I also want to say that i don't blame technology for changing who we are. I blame us for being susceptible to it and giving into it. It is up to each of us to develop and foster relationships and to learn patience. The instant gratification problem results in massive debt loads and the ability to wait for what's right instead of what's right now. There are times when instant gratification are OK and healthy (that's why we have masturbation, LOL) BUT there are some things worth waiting for...like someone you want to be with as opposed to someone you are willing to be with.
And I didn't get to meet you as soon as I wanted...I'm more than willing to wait for that :-)
There is a story that a coworker once told me. He and his wife had a very rough first year of marriage -- they were driving each other crazy and it didn't seem like things could ever work out. They decided to get a divorce. However, they determined that they couldn't afford a divorce. Instead, they decided to put money aside for a year until they could afford a divorce. The year went by. At the end of the year they had the money, but realized that they no longer wanted a divorce. They learned that they could work together in a mutually supportive way to achieve something together that was larger than what they could have done working individually. They told me this story after 45+ years of marriage.
Everything of worth in my life took time; it took me decades to go to school/get a job. It is taking me years to get in shape the proper way.
I see so many people fall short because they took the quick route rather than invest time into a long term goal.
There is a book that argues speed is just bad, enough said. I think it is called "Speed Kills" I must find it.
This post really evoked a lot of thoughts in me. I have a lengthy comment to make, but as it would end up being far longer than your original post, it would be rude to leave it here. I'm going to make my own post out of it. Look for on Tuesday.
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