But I have recently learned and have figured out that "confidence is sexy". Mind you, I find someone who is overly confident, to the point of being egomaniacal, is a big turn-off. It's a fine line to have confidence yet not be arrogant. And boy can I have some fun when I'm standing or walking on that fine line!
It's nice to flirt and then, when the time is right, just take what you want. In fact, I find a lot of people want someone who has a 'take charge' type attitude in the bedroom. Even when you're the object, the one who is being seduced, it's really nice when someone is letting you know when you're attractive and desirable.
Is flirting and seduction done much anymore in our new electronic world of Grindr, Manhunt, Scruff or some other hook up site? It now seems like we're ordering from an online catalog or a takeout menu. What about flirting and making someone feel attractive? I find that the qualities that I'm attracted to in a guy are things that you can't detect from a small picture or a sentence about what they're "into". You certainly can't tell if someone is confident from a picture of their bare chest with only their nipples showing, now can you?
Here is one of my favorite quotes from the show Mad Men:
"You'll realize in your private life that at a certain point seduction is over and force is actually be requested."
~Don Draper
See why I love this show!
Have y'all ever been in a situation like this? I'd love to hear your stories. Maybe some bloggers will take this up as a blog challenge.... Do you like being seduced? Have you ever seduced someone? Do tell....
5 comments:
Well if you don't know how to flirt I don't know where that puts me, because I'm sure I know less than you.
No one has ever flirted with me. Not that I would know it anyway. Unless he said, "I am flirting with you now," I'd never know it.
Even if I knew how to flirt I wouldn't do it. I'm afraid where it might lead. But if I was single...
I enjoy flirting; it gets me into trouble at times for it is gray area with no one playing quite the same game.
I agree - self confidence is the key. The best accessory to dressing up is attitude!
I don't know how to flirt. And I never know when I'm being flirted with. You can also substitute the word "flirt" with "hit on", as the same holds true.
And I have very little self confidence. Where does one obtain that?
I was a terrible flirt in my 20s when, as a young "straight" man, unhappily married 40ish ladies would hit on me. I was absolutely shameless! Nothing ever came if it, probably because (as I discovered 20 years later), I was gay and wasn't really interested in them.
I've only had a little experience as a gay man flirting with men, but I know I will enjoy it.... I might even be good at it!
As to being seduced by a sexy "take-charge" kind of a guy, bring him on! It would be a pleasant change from heterosexual sex, where the man is usually expected to take the lead.
Oh, but if we were ever to meet Mr. Jim's Stuff....flirting takes practice and the flirtee has know that they're the object of the flirting. Some people are just not cognizant of that particular form of human communication.
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