July 30, 2012

Sage advice

I got the following in an email. Y'all  may have seen it already... but I thought it was worth sharing:

Written by Regina Brett, 90 years old, of the Plain Dealer, Cleveland , Ohio .

"To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most requested column I've ever written. My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:

1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short – enjoy it.

4. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and family will.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don't have to win every argument. Stay true to yourself.

7. Cry with someone It's more healing than crying alone.

8. It's OK to get angry with God.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.

12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.

16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn't useful. Clutter weighs you down in many ways.

18. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.

19. It's never too late to be happy. But it’s all up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words 'In five years, will this matter?'

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time - time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.

35. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

36. Growing old beats the alternative -- dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood.

38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.

41. Envy is a waste of time. Accept what you already have not what you need.

42. The best is yet to come.

43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

44. Yield.

45. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift."

July 27, 2012

HOA headaches

Nothing spells major headache like "HOA"!
Especially of you're trying to vote out a tyrant president. One who loves to bully and intimidate people.

Of course tempers flared and allegations voiced. Voices were raised and general anger ensued...

We did not get our wish to banish the tyrant from the ranks of leadership. Boo... hiss...

All of this due to an "interpretation" of one word in the By-Laws.

From all of this I have learned the By-Laws and the Rules & Regulations very well.

At least the weekend if finally here! YAYZ!

July 24, 2012

Pioneer Day

July 24, 1847

The day that Breed'em Young Brigham Young said "This is the place..." while looking down into the Salt Lake valley.
Today is a state holiday in Utah. I have fond memories of parades and dressing up like pioneers while I was growing up in my tiny town in central Utah.

Now-a-days I call today "pie 'n beer" day! More fitting I think...

But still I have to respect my forefathers who were pioneers. I guess if you look at one meaning of the word pioneer, I could be one too: "A person or group that originates or helps open up a new line of thought or activity..."

Maybe I should say: "This is the place... where Jim will take a stand" or "...where Jim will not be moved or swayed, where he will stay and grow stronger".

At least I'll be thinking of my ancestors and lifting a cold one to them.
Hhmmmm... and some pie too :-)

July 21, 2012

I'm a little bastard... again

Thanks CB for choosing my entry in your fun challenge Li'l B*Hole Comix! I don't want to go all Sally Fields on you... but just say "thanks"! I look forward to every Friday to see what you come up with next!

I came home to a nice surprise last night... my new modem for my home internet had arrived! Woohoo! It really does suck not to have internet at home. Now I can surf porn look at blogs and stuff at my leisure. I know the iJim can do most everything... but I'm on a limited data plan and am nearing the end of my billing cycle and don't want to pay extra for going over my usage limits if I don't have to. At least I got to read more...

Well, this morning will be filled with a quick bike ride, some chores and grocery shopping before I head out to see The Doobie Brothers and Chicago in an outdoor concert tonight with some friends. Yep.. kickin' it "old school' tonight.

Have a great weekend y'all!

July 20, 2012


This last week Dallas has had a break from the heat. But the temperatures are going back up into the triple digits this weekend.

So why is my heading to this post "freezing"?

Our office is over air conditioned! To the point that I have a heater on, at my feet, most days at work! I think I have a theory on why it feels like a walk-in freezer:
  • They think that bankers should be wearing a suit all day, which is layers of clothing. I don't wear a suit...
  • More people in the country are a bit (or more) overweight and they have to cool the building to accommodate them. The people with less body fat are the ones who are cold...
  • The building managers think that the hotter it is outside the colder it should be inside. I usually wear lighter clothing in summer...
  • These same people just love winter! I don't....
I'd rather be sweating a little bit than being a bit chilly. I prefer the temperatures to be in the 90s rather than the 60s.

Does anyone else have this problem?


July 19, 2012

# 5

I got it on June 6th.

The pictures are from the pool party where I got a little too happy with the Scotch.

July 18, 2012

Driving in Dallas

Life in Dallas, for many, is all about their cars.

It drives me crazy that a car can define who someone is in this city. The term used here is "Dallitude". A car is a status symbol.... for some, not all.

So living in Dallas means it's ideal to live close to a major road.

And then once you are on the road all of that southern charm or hospitality is gone... it's every man (or woman) for himself and you better get out of their way or they will ride your ass!

But has anyone noticed the road map of the Dallas Ft. Worth area? Look closely at the map below... see if you can see it... LOL

July 16, 2012

Random blogging and life stuff

I'm feeling disconnected from the world... my internet connect at home is not working. And some things are not the same trying to connect on the iPrecious.

I've not gotten a chance to read blogs and get caught up on all my friend's blogs or even Facebook. Though I am finding I am not on Facebook very much lately... I seem to log on in the mornings to see if any friend is celebrating a birthday and a few "top posts" from friends. Then in the evening after work I'm not on as much. I actually prefer to meet friends in person.

I've been contemplating this blog too. The concept/idea for the blog has changed for me in the last year or so.... I either feel like I need a theme or something specific to talk about, not just my random thoughts all the time. But I'm not sure what that theme would be...

Maybe I need to ask my blog buddies and readers for some ideas of topics. What do you want to hear about me? And no... no more shower videos!

Should I do another "ask me anything" post?

July 13, 2012


I know it's been a few days since my last blog entry so here are some updates:

My friend's funeral was today. Sad.

I got back results of some blood work I had done.... HIV negative. Yay.

My testosterone is low... I got a shot. Ouch!

It's Friday! Yay!

I had a young hot guy ask me out. Shock!

Eat, work, workout, sleep, repeat. Boring.

That's about it...

I'll let y'all know if the testosterone shots help any.

I have a few more thoughts for some blog entries... I think.

How have y'all been?

July 9, 2012


I had a great weekend with my friends. It was a much needed time to be surrounded with people who love me and who I love. My friends do not hesitate to say "I love you" often.

Jim & Paul
Part of my "MEH" mood last week had to do with another friend in Dallas who was just diagnosed with liver and pancreas cancer. When I got home last night I heard that he is comatose and not likely to last through the day.

I used to be really close to him and his husband and I knew them before they got together. They had been chatting online but not met in person when I introduced them to each other in person at the pride parade about 10 years ago.

This makes me think... did these friends know that I love them? I would like to think so....

Life takes all kinds of unexpected turns and the last time I saw them about 2 months ago things were going great for them. Cherish your friends and loved ones for we never know when things will change.

July 6, 2012

Random notes from under a rock

I haven't been feeling very social lately.

I had some blood work done last week to see if I need more testosterone. Maybe this is why I have been in a MEH mood lately...

I had a HOA board meeting on Tuesday night. We're firing our board president. Woohoo... fun... NOT!

I didn't do anything exciting on the 4th... I think it's a waste of money for fireworks. There are homeless and hungry people that need help. I just don't get the fascination with them. I know... "rocket's red glare", Star Spangled Banner thing.... but I was bored with them when I was growing up.

I am crawling out from under my rock to go visit some friends who live near Austin this weekend. I hope I'll be feeling more social by the time I get there this evening.

I hope y'all have a great weekend!

July 2, 2012


I was talking with a friend last week and the conversation sparked a thought that I knew would make a good blog post.

I was talking about when I lived in New Zealand and drove on the "wrong side" of the road. My friend commented that he could never get used to that. I responded that it really wasn't that difficult. He said no, it's not that... it's all the roundabouts that they have.

Thinking about it I had to agree. Americans are very agressive drivers and the concept is too difficult to comprehend. One must be a courteous driver and one that does not tailgate for a roundabout to work. There are some in cities and towns across the country... but not as many as in other countries.

But I think this applies to more than just driving too. It seems like people are more agressive about everything these days. And forget about being courtious... people want their way and they want it now... and all else be damned!

Maybe this is fostered by the intollerence of religious leaders. They don't seems to think that their hatred of other people is bullying!

Anyway.... Does anyone have to drive on a roundabout in their city? Does it frustrate you?

July 1, 2012

July Tarot

The Queen of Swords reversed
In general the Reversed Queen of Swords can indicate stumbling blocks; these are most often created by other people besides you but occasionally refers to those which you are creating.

This month I need to be sure to keep a clear head and not get bogged down by someone underhanded or manipulative or someone that loves petty gossip. I also need to think more with my head and not rely on my heart only.

The month started out very nicely... I got to see Erik and his husbear last evening! It was a nice surprise to see them in Dallas for the evening.