Thank you to everyone who responded to my last post.
I wish I had something great and inspiring to tell you all about how one can find happiness and be happy with yourselves. Great words of wisdom would be nice... but life is an individual journey we must all find our way in. I only have my experiences and outlook on life to impart.
Several years ago I came to an epiphany about myself. I realized that self-esteem is just an attitude. I finally came to just accept myself as I am. I'm not defined by my body for it goes up and down in weight and it grows older. I am kind of surprised that some people still define themselves by the kind of car they drive or their degree in school, or their job, etc. Those are just things that we do.
We can change things in our lives just by changing our attitudes and how we define happiness. For me, I am most content when I have peace of mind and when I live in the moment. I think I have made great strides by not living in the past and constantly reliving or regurgitate something I did wrong in the past. I also don't spend a lot of time worrying about what may happen tomorrow. This moment is all I have and I want to live it fully.
When I look in the mirror I try to see myself for what I really am and then I readjust my expectations. I wish I could look like I did when I was 25, but I don't. Being happy in your own skin is easy for me.... I don't have any other skin to live in! So I now have a choice: be miserable or I might as well be happy and content with who I am.